THE FEMALE ORGASM REVEALED - Top Picks on Sexuality and Dating
Book Review: Ranking: 4.5 stars
The Female Orgasm Revealed –by Gabrielle Moore, is a book that goes over everything you need to know about the female orgasm. Discover More Than 179 Proven Techniques And Positions To Give ANY Woman Multiple Orgasms! Click for FREE Report
Designed to help men satisfy their lovers, The Female Orgasm Revealed explains the different myths about female pleasure, and the most common reasons of sexual frustration. It then provides a description of the female anatomy, and the most important erogenous points.
The most important chapter of the book is dedicated to teaching important techniques and positions that the reader will be able to try with his lover on the same night.
The tips include forplay techniques, orgasm achieving strategies and a useful approach on oral sex. To read more, click here...
THE PROS
The good side about The Female Orgasm Revealed is its practicality. Even though it does provide important theoretical information on female anatomy, most of it is dedicated to giving you a step-by-step guide on how to act and what to do when.
At the end of each chapter, there is a summary of the information that you should retain and use in your next intercourse.
It's also useful to know that the author –Gabrielle- is a female intimacy expert. She has been working in the subject for years. The Female Orgasm Revealed is one of her many books and courses that have helped thousands of couples around the world to improve their sex lives. Click here to learn more...
Insider's tip: Gabrielle Moore gives a 5 Myths About The Female Orgasm report at no charge to every person who signs up in her website...plus, she sends you interesting stories and tips through her newsletter now and then. Sign up and receive your free report today by clicking here.
THE CONS
Another con is that you may find it too basic. The Female Orgasm Revealed is more of an introductory book, so if you are already giving your partner fairly descent orgasms on a regular basis, or if you already know how to provide pleasure through at least 5 different positions, you may want to look for something more challenging.
FINAL WORDS...
The Female Orgasm is one of the most intriguing subjects in the intimacy area; in parallel, sexual frustration is one of the first causes of infidelity in the world. Whether it is through Gabrielle's book or not, it is highly recommendable that you take a full dive into the subject in order to be able to satisfy your lover.
Sex is a two-way road and so it must be understood. If you only worry about receiving, you might end up not having someone to give to at all. Don't waste your time and learn about the female orgasm now. Click here to get started now...
Monday, November 10, 2008
Female Orgasm Revealed
Friday, November 7, 2008
How to Give Her an Orgasm. 5 Steps To Orgasms
How to Give Her an Orgasm. 5 Steps To Giving Orgasms
How to Give Her an Orgasm
Is it really so hard to give a woman an orgasm? Many say it’s difficult but many men also claim that it’s very easy… IF you know what to do. So the question is, do you?
Any health, loving and lasting relationship counts a great sex life as a key ingredient. And if you look around you, it’s probably not hard to tell which couples are truly happy with each other. These are the couples that still look at each other with lust in their eyes! So what’s their secret? It’s probably because they are BOTH sexually satisfied in their relationship.
A lot of people know that women don’t reach an orgasm as easily or as quickly as men. What many don’t realize is that this does nothing but build sexual frustration. And sexual frustration manifests itself in many negative ways in a relationship; until one day, you both wake up and realize that you no longer have passion in each other and in your lives.
The good news is it’s really not hard at all to make a woman reach an orgasm. But you both have to work at it, which, if you think about it, is part of the fun as well!
How to Make Her ‘Come’ – A Step-by-Step Guide
You may find this step-by-step guide useful. It is one of the many tools that Gabrielle Moore, an expert on sex education has created. Click here to learn more about other tools by visiting her website...
Step 1
Engage in a lot of foreplay! Foreplay is very important because it helps her relax her mind and make her more focused on the lovemaking at hand. It’s also a great way to bond as many women associate foreplay as a man’s way of taking time and ensuring sex is not just a physical act but about intimacy.
Foreplay can start hours or even days in advance and is really limited only by your sexual imagination. As you keep this ‘sexual tension’ high, you’ll find that it’s actually easier to bring her to an orgasm once you do engage in sex.
Step 2
If foreplay is the ‘primer’, oral sex is the next big step. Many women actually claim that oral sex is the ONLY way they can reach an orgasm so if you both want it to be that way, then don’t resist.
When you do go down on her, don’t rush it. Show her that you really love her by lavishing her genitals with your undivided attention. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination so to speak.
At the start, just tease and lick softly and lovingly. Once she’s focused on that part of her body, increase the tempo. When you notice that her breathing is getting faster and harder or if her legs are becoming taut, move your attention to her clitoris. Tease it by drawing small circles around it with your tongue and then apply more pressure and lick faster.
If she gives any indication at all that she’s really turned on, remember this: DON’T change anything. Keep the tempo of what you’re doing and she’ll reach her orgasm soon enough.
Step 3
If your tongue doesn’t bring her to an immediate orgasm, don’t despair. Don’t forget that your fingers can be put to good use too! Use your index finger to ‘trace’ the outline of her labia. Be sure to touch her gently. This is guaranteed to electrify her body. After this, place your index and middle finger together and then draw circles around her clitoris.
Pay attention to her body (is it in a pleasured, relaxed state or is it pulled taut like a string?) to gauge just how turned on she is. Don’t forget to pay attention to her moans and groans as well.
You can alternate using your tongue and fingers to stimulate her clitoris and just like what’s advised above, if she indicates something that’s really turning her on, just keep doing it! To learn more about other techniques to stimulate her, click here…
Step 4
If clitoral stimulation has not brought on an orgasm yet, then try G-spot stimulation! Assuming that she’s already hot and wet, slowly insert your index and middle finger inside her womanhood, palm up. Once inside, position your fingers to the “11 o’clock”. Slowly try and locate a small bump or swelling (like an engorged clitoris). Once you find this spot, congratulations… you’ve located the elusive G-spot!
Step 5
You can stimulate the G-spot in many ways. You can tap it with your fingers, draw lazy or frenzied circles around it, or flick it wildly like a light switch. If you wish, you can use your thumb to stimulate her clitoris while stimulating her G-spot. This will surely give her an orgasm to be remembered! To learn more, click here…
Orgasm Problems. Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm
Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…
YOU’re not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.
Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it by clicking here now
Monday, October 27, 2008
Houston Women Will Test What Everyone But Doctors Call Female Viagra
Houston Women Will Test What Everyone But Doctors Call Female Viagra
Potential good news for women with a low sex-drive: a study is underway in Houston for a topical solution that revs up the libido. Think of it as applying a little bit of steamy thespian Lorenzo Lamas’s sweat to your skin.
Created by Illinois-based BioSante Pharmaceuticals, LibiGel could be ready for market by 2010, depending on how this third phase – for safety and efficacy – goes. The testosterone-based gel will be directed at the approximately 40 million women suffering from female sexual dysfunction (FDS), specifically hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), thus rejuvenating their sex lives (DOINGIT). It is meant to be applied daily to the upper arm, “delivering testosterone to the bloodstream evenly over time and in a non-invasive and painless manner,” according to BioSante’s website.
But don’t think of it as female Viagra.
“That’s completely inaccurate,” Mark Jacobs, an OBGYN involved with the study, tells Hair Balls. Jacobs says that male sexuality is simple and straightforward; female sexuality is complex. (Hair Balls isn’t sure, but we think it has something to do with moonbeams and fairy dust).
Jacobs says female sexuality involves both complex pscyhological and physiological factors, to wit: “A new mother with a little baby is not going to be terribly interested in sex as a general rule because she’s busy biologically being a mother, and the infant’s totally dependant….A woman who is in a troubled relationship or who has lots of stress and so forth may not be interested either,” he says.
And while other pharmaceutical companies have tackled this issue before, Jacob says that “as of yet, the magic bullet – which there may not even be a magic bullet – has not been found.” [SIDENOTE: “Magic Bullet” is also the name of a mini-vibrator, which, come to think of it, women with FDS may want to look into until LibiGel’s on the shelves].
The third phase of the study, which Jacobs hopes will include 4,000 women, is only for women 30-65 who’ve had their ovaries removed (surgical menopause); and women over 50 (natural menopause).
That’s right, dude: your grandmother might be in on this. Think about that before you go to sleep tonight.
Excessive Sex Problems
Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Sex. Is Too Much Sex A Bad Thing. Excessive Sex Problems
“I have been married for 2 years and I detest having sex with my husband. I love him very much but the pain is unbearable and it hurts too much. I know he gets upset but I can’t tell him anything so I just avoid intimacy all together”- Sugandha Joshi (name changed), 28 homemaker
“When I first got married, we used to have sex constantly. And because of that, I got urinal infection that completely put me off sex. Before I realized I sued to cringe at the idea of him getting close. Psychologically I just shut off.”- Lata shah (name changed), 25, homemaker
Sex has always been an intricate issue. Right from the start when it was a taboo in most societies till today where the idea is somewhat relaxed, sex has somehow managed to keep its place in the minds of the people. When for most men sex is a simple act of either consummating a marriage, relationship or just simply getting intimate with somebody, for women the idea runs a little deeper emotionally and physically. Recently a survey conducted by a German magazine revealed some very interesting facts. It said that 12 per cent of women have had sex related injuries and 75 per cent are put off by the idea because they had so much which in turn has led to a emotional blockage against intimacy.
So basically it boils down to one simple question: Is there something as too much sex?
The answer to that is a little tricky. Sex as an act is important but sometimes when the act leads to physical shutdown, it can be harmful. Specially, in newlyweds who engage constant and excessive sexual activities, the chances are higher.
Says Dr. Rishma Dhillon Pai, Consulting gynecologist at Lilavati and Jaslok hospital,“ In the initial stages because the frequency of sex is very high there can be cases of tearing which might require stitching, infection or dryness. But more than physical it is a psychological thing. From a young age sex is portrayed as evil and scary. Most women have the notion that it is “painful procedure”. And once that idea is engraved in the mind, it spills over to the physical aspect. And that is when it becomes harmful and a task. It leads to a psychological block, which results in bad, painful sex which in turn leads to various emotional complications. This condition is called Vaginismus. The key is to remember that it is not the frequency that could cause problems but the technique. It is okay if you don’t have sex every night. It should not become a task or an everyday chore. It is a pleasurable act and should be done with a relaxed mind. Ultimately the idea is to have fun and also be safe”.
36 % of women suffer from Vaginismus which is a spasm of the vaginal muscles, caused mainly by fear of being hurt. This spasm is often so painful that intercourse is impossible - sometimes for years.
She says..“I come from a very conservative family and talking about sex was a strict no. I got married when I was 22 to very nice man. I was a virgin and literally clueless about sex and everything related to it. On the first night of the marriage, we consummated our relationship. It was very painful experience and uncomfortable for me but I didn’t complain. Our sex life was pretty ok but even after six months of marriage it was a painful act for me. I thought it was normal and didn’t talk to anybody about it or bothered to go to a gynaecologist. Some times when the sex was rough I even used to bleed. Without knowing and subconsciously that experience shut me off emotionally. I got phobic of sex. I refused to let my husband even touch me. My fear combined with the lack of sex drive from my side affected our marriage. We grew distant. It was quite traumatic for me because I couldn’t talk to anybody about it. I became quite antisocial and aloof which was bad because I am a complete extrovert by nature. I didn’t socialise much, didn’t step out of my home if not necessary, shunned out friends. When things started getting really bad and I couldn’t take it anymore I convinced myself and visited the doctor. The tests revealed that I had developed an infection and had a tearing, which got aggravated every time we did it. I needed stitches. It was a relief and a shock at the same time to know that because it meant that there wasn’t anything wrong with it and me and it was treatable. Maybe if I was a little aware I could have avoided the situation. Things got better after that with the support of my husband but it I don’t think I can get over the incident psychologically completely”-Aruna Shinde (name changed), 38 homemaker
23% of women claim that having too much sex makes it monotonous
Even though having healthy sex has a lot of advantage, too much sex can eventually lead to painful sex because of the sheer frequency. Cases of vaginismus are very common in young and older woman alike and could be aggregated with simple reasons such as unease with the partner – perhaps at an unconscious level.
Psychological doldrums
“While I always enjoyed sex, after a while I got fed up. It was all we did. Sharing, communication and even simple thinks like having dinner together took a back seat. I was so confused because even though I enjoyed the act, I wanted to take a break from it and do some real couple stuff”-Juhi Sinha (name changed), 29, Marketing executive
The number one issue that results in the break-up of a relationship is sex related. Even though it is a great stress buster more often than less, sex acts as a substitute for issues that are lying deeper in couples. It could be money related, distinctive opinion on how to raise kids or just problems with the in-laws. It is healthy to have a good sex drive but if it is used as a cover up for a bigger issue, it can be disturbing. Although it sidelines the immediate problems but causes an emotional impact nevertheless.
Says Clinical Psychologist Srikant Dave “First and foremost one needs to give the act of sex its due importance. In our society it is such a matter of hush hush that most people have no idea about its core value. It is no wonder that when a sex related problem arises it brushed under the carpet. It not just an animal acts but a connection between two people. But sometimes things go wrong even when the connection is strong. When it used as an excuse to cover up a bigger thing, it is red flag fluttering. And more often women feel the brunt of it than the male counterpart and that can cause some serious emotional trauma. Don’t use sex a blanket, repercussions of that could be harmful. I have dealt with cases where couples claimed that they have reached the peak of the sexual life and now it is a downhill journey. It is just not as fun as it used to be. And more often the woman says this. One should really introspect and figure out why. ”
Yes it is complicated and the easier thing to do is not to talk about it. If one thinks things are not quite right, there are a couple of questions that you should ask yourself:
- What is the reason we are having excessive sex?
- It is normal?
- Do I enjoy it?
- Is this behavior a cover up for an issue that is bothering me or my partner?
- Is this frequent activity harming me in any way? Emotionally or physically?
- Can I figure out the difference healthy sex drive and compulsive sexual behaviour?
- What can I do about it?
4 out of 10 times couples use sex to blanket the number one issue bothering them-money
The answers to the above question will lead to series of revelations if tackled honestly. Looking in-depth in ones life and figuring out the loopholes is a way to do damage control in most cases. Socially, situations of such magnitude can lead to a different kind of a dilemma.
Confesses Poonam Katiyal, (name changed) 33, homemaker “I am a shy person by nature. My husband and I shared an average sex life but I had a major phobia of penetration. It developed from a childhood incident of abuse. He never knew about it so every time we would have sex, I would shut my eyes tightly, stiffen my legs and hold my breath for as long as I could. That would make penetration even harder and way too painful because of which I suffered from various injuries. You could say that it was kind of self-inflicted but that made me very conscious. I would get terrible mood swings, was always irritated, and would start sobbing because of no reason. Because of my erratic behaviour, we stopped going our or socialising completely. It was terrible”
Childhood blend of abuse sex and fear has different effects on people. Some wind up fearing sex too much even to talk about it, or they go on anti-porn, anti-vice. That very fear can make you cling to your partner passionately and using sex to cover up old bruises. It’s no coincidence that in times of war and terror, people crave sex. But when the high comes down, the reality seems a little grim.
3 out of 10 women have a fear of penetration also known as Genophobia.-www.forbes.com
So how does it affect the man in the relationship? Says Srikant Dave “Men are usually not as communicative and a situation like this can really throw them off guard. If only the woman is open about the situation and what she is going through they can respond. But since the chances are higher of the woman shutting down emotionally, there are chances of him doing the same. One needs to be very careful in a situation like this a couple needs to work through it. Communication is the key. Share what you are going through. Shunning him out thinking he will not understand is a bad idea because men in general don’t know how to react to a statement they don’t understand”.
Recent survey conducted by Laumann and colleagues at the University of Chicago of American women (ages 18-59) found that the most common sexual problem in women is hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), more commonly referred to as low sex drive or libido (33.4%), followed by difficulty with orgasm (24.1%). Pain during intercourse–which occurs in 14.4% of women–was the only condition to show a relationship to age — it decreases, as women get older.
But in a society where an open discussion about sex is a vague idea even between couples, how does one really convey the message to you other half. After all, it is not as simple to say “I don’t want to have sex with you”. Where woman would like to wallow in self-pity when a situation of such order arises, the man may just be left very perplexed and confused. “When my wife told me that we should stop having sex for a while because she had a “problem”, I was very confused. I couldn’t just figure out what the “problem” could be and if it is serious enough to affect our sex life then why couldn’t she tell me about it. This issue caused a rift between us. Because I couldn’t help her and she refused to talk, I became distant. She might have thought I had abandoned her but even I was helpless”.
Robbie Williams, Hugh Grant, Micheal Douglass, Bill Clinton, Drew Barrymore all suffered from sex addiction at one point of their life. For Robbie Williams it was so intense that he had to go to rehab for it.
For men the funda is simple. The problem needs to be tangible for them to be able to sort out. But, if you don’t mind generalizing, there are a few interesting differences. Most men seem to fear a woman’s irrational side: the hysterical premenstrual woman, the nag and even then quiet ones. As women are trained not to discuss their intimate problems with men, similarly men are not really tuned in to the silent cry of a woman. Yes surely when you are quiet you expect you man to probe you a little bit, but in most cases that won’t happen. Share freely and openly to get an honest and genuine response.
An influential study published in the July 2000 issue of Psychological Review reported that females were more likely to deal with sex problems by “alienating and aloofing ” — that is, staying to themselves, shunning close and loved ones out. It due to a combination of reasons which includes shame, embarrasement or the feeling of rejection.
Addiction of a different kind
“Sex is my most important need. Because I know that no one would love me as I am and my needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others”-Smita kapur (name changed) 24, Call centre executive
If you decide to look at this from a psychological point of view it kind of uncomplicates matters. Sex where both the party aggress to is always fine but when it is done to fulfill a compulsive need is when it the trouble begins. For example: Sex addiction.
Sexual addiction has been around apparently going back as far as we have recorded history but it is the least talked about. The lack of knowledge and understanding about it comes from our society’s unwillingness to take an honest and open look at sexuality. Sexual addiction in women specially is rapidly becoming recognized as a major social problem with similarities better known to alcohol and drug addiction or compulsive gambling. Today, the concept that a person could be hooked on sex is unsettling to most people. People are more able to admit to have bad habits, but shy away from saying that they are hooked on someone or something. This fear comes from society’s stereotype of addicts.
Says renowned sexologist Dr. Prakash Kothari “There is no such thing as too much sex as long as it is agreed upon by both the partners without any conditions. There should be no emotional baggage hanging over it. But sometimes too much could mean there is an underlying problem such as sex addiction and it could be equal in men and women alike. These obsessions are intensified through the use of ritualization or acting out sometimes without even knowing the reason behind it. It is such a big taboo that firstly hardly people accept it of they have a problem and secondly even if they do there is too much stigma attached. But this is a serious condition and it needs treatment. The sooner people get help the better it is because after a while it becomes difficult to draw the line between too healthy sex life and compulsive behaviour. It is highly imperative the addict finds an experienced, trained counsellor to help with their addiction”
Scientists specializing in sexual behaviour generally agree on what constitutes out-of-control sexual behaviour, but they disagree over whether it is appropriately diagnosed as an addiction or as a symptom of an underlying obsessive-compulsive disorder, which can cause sexual obsessions and in some cases acting out of the obsessions”
- American Journal of Preventive Psychiatry and Neurology
44% of people say that addiction to sex is more embarrassing than cheating on your spouse
Call it emotional block or cover-up. But when it comes to sex the answer is never that simple and is usually with many layers. But sometimes one needs to step back and realise whether an act is a surrender of the need to control the compulsion in which case it can cause physical damage, emotional upheaval and not to mention can have it repercussions on relationships. A so called taboo in most forms but nevertheless important.
Note: This article Femina magazine,
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